Entries by David Puder
The Cone Of Shame
Shame is more prevalent in our culture now then shame. We no longer think “I am bad” [guilt] but rather “I will be seen as bad” [shame]. In large part this is a change in how parenting is done. Here is guilt inducing parenting which is a relic of the past: “Don’t do that […]
5 Reasons Mothering Is The Most Important Job In The World.
As a psychiatrist I see the multiplicity of problems that arise in early infanthood and play out in adulthood. So on Mother’s Day, what better way to remind mothers that their job, often a more ambigous and hidden wonder, is in fact (and I am merging together a lot of research here) the most inportant […]
Non-Verbals
Connection occurs from the time we are in the womb. Pushing against the outside world, a response occurs back, an outside voice like a deep rumbling or a vibration of sensations. A newborn can mimic the movements of an adult. 2 tongues stick out. 2 smiles. 2 frowns. Two. Mirroring occurs visually together […]
Read Me
What is Connection…? Attachment? Embrace? Love? Harmony between people? Is Connection something that can be learned, experienced, grown in? YES. Journey with me into the art of connection. Perhaps we can grow together in the process.
Connecting with someone who is angry…
Filled with anger. Tight chest, jaw clenched, stomach tight, light in the eyes, the face becomes red, tight neck and back, respirations increased, head erect or tilted forward, fists slightly clenched, feet planted firmly, body moves forward as if to attack… How does one connect with another in this moment? What if they see me […]